The Reason I Started My Blog Site
Im extremely disturbed,disgusted & angry to hear that more then 200 girls lost thier lives in the past 5 yrs @ the hands of thier father because she was “too westernized”!! A beautiful 16 yr old girl was strangled because she refused to wear hijab! A 20 yr old was strangled because she would use hairspray! Two 17 yr old sisters shot dead in fathers taxi because they had boyfriends! A 25 yr old was murdered because she refused to stay in an arranged marriage & opted for divorce! A man poured gas on his sleeping family of a wife & 3 daughters and burned them alive because one of the girls wanted to become a fashion designer! Another woman was stabbed 18 times with 4 different knives because she refused to submit to an arranged marriage . There are 119 cases in Britain alone of honor killings! All in the name of Islam! All Pakistani & Arab muslims MCP! Can we the educated not protest? Are we so engrossed in our lives that we cant even speak up about it? Is this what Islam preaches? Is this whats in the Quran ? They want to prove that they’re good muslims? Why not do something about our brothers suffering in humiliation @ Guantanamo Bay? Instead of killing women & proving thier manhood! COWARDS! LOSERS! Lets stop this together pls.Go on line & google muslim fathers killing daughters & you will see what Im talking about! Pls SPEAK UP!
July 11th, 2008 at 6:19 pm
OMG TIS IS AWESOME!!! :)))
July 11th, 2008 at 6:21 pm
WUT I MEANT TO SAY TO SAY IS THATS ITS AWESOME THAT U HVE UR OWN BLOG SITE… BUT THIS BLOG ABOVE MY COMMENT… IS HORRRIBLE!!!!!!! I MEAN WUT HAS TIS WORLD COME 2!!!
July 18th, 2008 at 10:18 pm
time to rise and follow the leader and that is noneother than yours and mine SAMIA
BEAUTY OF THIS BLOG IS BLACK AND WHITE
July 21st, 2008 at 8:55 pm
When i came to this website i sure didnt expect this , Ive been hearing about this on the am stations and i called in to them but couldnt get through i definetly would take a stand there is no killing in Islam only defending yourself whoever came up with this honor killing ???Ive came to Islam and have been studying islam for 5 years ive never heard anything like this !!!Im Appaled First of all a portion of our Quran is stating to treat your women as a flower as a precious thing as women are abused by their husbands for no reason i will take a stand i will not let some man with a complex problem hurt my daughter I will be the firt to stand up ,No more muslim men hitting their wifes It is against islam and for those so called brothers whom stand by and watch god will punish you regardless of what race or how his wife is she does not deserve this…I KNOW ………ANY QUESTIONS?????????please respond now
August 28th, 2008 at 10:19 am
I really respect what you wrote and i protest whats been done but i protest this too that you don’t have any right to talk about religion when you don’t have any thing to do with it. I have seen your family foinf all that what a non muslim family does so how can you speak up. Though i agree with you because people who kill their daughters needs to go back to Pakistan and stay to raise their kids but neither me or you have any right to say this because atleast they practice religion and they know what Quran teach us. I wonder if you know what Islam and Qurans say about this. I doubt it if you have any info.
Good Luck:)
August 28th, 2008 at 10:45 am
Listen Mr Know It All! YOU have no right to get personal here! Because my family enjoys & have a good time @ the concerts we’re non-muslims? Let Allah be the judge of that!
DO YOU KNOW YOUR RELEIGION WELL TO BE SAYING THAT THEY PRACTICE RELIGION? Is this what Quran says…to kill? Islam is the most tolerant of all religions & does not tolerate atrocities! Honor killings are one of them! Quote me 1 ayat that says kill your women in the name of religion! For people like you Islam begins & ends with women!
Oh how nice of you to respect & protest whats been done….you should get an award for your 2 second emotions!! What are YOU doing to stop it? How are YOU making a difference in someones life? Infact YOU are one of those by saying “@ least they practice religion”
Next time you want to leave a comment pls dont insult my intelligence because I know what Im talking about! Im blunt & bold & will take you down with all the arguments!
Good luck to YOU for you probably never came across a Pakistani Muslim women like me to deal with!
August 30th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
Hey why should any Pakistani act any differently here than in Pakistan.Perhaps you dont even know why Pakistan is a country they left India for Islam to make an islamic state they took a stand for their religion and didnt accept what other people tried to force on them they were strong respectful and honorable. As families of those same people you should never leave your beliefs bring it to America England Australia worldwide But remember Islam and all it says about how women should be treated .Quran says not to even talk loudly at your wife.. If you practice Islam you follow the Quran no matter what sect.A Muslim does not Kill and beat their wife.If they do they are KAFAR!
August 30th, 2008 at 4:30 pm
September 5th, 2008 at 10:29 am
Muslim Women; Respected, charitable, modest and spiritual, noble, wise and caring, observing the Hijab and remaining true to their faith.
“O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks close round them (when they go abroad). That will be better, so that they may be recognised and not annoyed. Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.” (Quran 33:59)
If you’re a Muslim than you have to follow the Quran. Please, don’t create differences by calling us with Pakistani-muslims or Arab-muslims. We’re a One Ummah and Ummah of Prophet Mohammad ( S.A.W ). Islam is the guideness to humanity, which includes all the nation of the world.
We Muslims throw the words of Allah on a wall and each of us living our lives in a way we wanted. Protesting in not a solution, we should Play our part in the Islamic revival, Return to Allah, Return to Islam; Allah’s Mercy awaits you, each night and each day.
December 18th, 2008 at 11:38 am
Listen you Ali’s & Hussien’s …so called muslims,please prove yourselves to women who dont know any better & will buy your bullshit!
Im well informed & know my religion well so dont start with me because I’ll leave you speechless!
Quoting the Quran randomly & making statements doesnt serve the purpose & its because of people like you that the relegion & community is suffering.So please use another platform NOT MINE!
December 18th, 2008 at 11:54 am
LOL!!! this is exactly how people like you react! Im not surprised at all
Start cursing,those who dont agree with you call them kafirs,that I dont desrve to live right? Its idiots like you who make & encourage terrorists in the name of religion.
TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THE WHOLE BLOG WAS ABOUT? WHAT WAS THE POINT OF DISCUSSION & WHERE HAVE YOU DIVERTED IT TO!!!
January 5th, 2010 at 2:04 pm
Its been little over a year that I left my comment and I completely forgot about it.
Well to begin with, you have a very biased opnion because what Hussain wrote is true. He just quoted an example from Quran. There are many other versees addressing this matter.
Without a doubt, Islam is the most tolrent religion on this earth but that does not prove that religion can be lenient based on person’s perception. If we are ordered to pray five times a day then can we question this.
All I wanted to say or express earlier was that you dont have enough knowledge of religion to write something like that. Everyone regrets what is happening in Islamic world but we cannot resolve it by wearing bikinis and proving that we are liberal.
Other religions changed their stance towards alot of their views like buring wife with husband funeral in Hinduism and adultry in Christianism. Islam is a pure religion, there are different sections withing Islam but no one ever touched Quran or changed a single verse.
Forgive me for talking about your family because i should not have done that and I pray for you and your family.
January 22nd, 2010 at 2:40 am
I respect your efforts to recognize Honor killings and to take a stance to condemn them. Unfortunately the truth remains that the conservative few will never let progressive Islam prevail in this social environment. Please be aware when addressing sensitive issues like this, conservative right will have backward ignorant defenses. Remain a Dj and let the social politics naturally decipher themselves out. This is one of many obsticles you will face as a muslim girl. Many young Muslims engage in premarital sex, drink and smoke pot and because we can’t ever address it in out society, the veil will only get thicker. Do everything responsibly!
May 11th, 2010 at 11:18 pm
Michael I read your comment when you wrote it but was caught up in my new career to take some time out for my blogs. I read between the lines & truly appreciate your concern dear but though what you say is the harsh reality…I can’t stay quiet about it! I believe someone needs to speak up, I believe change is what the Muslim world needs for a better progressive future & I believe there needs to be a revolution!
That DOES NOT mean that we need to make changes in religion but people need to be educated about their own religion.
I never claimed to be a perfect Muslim…..NO ONE IS! We do the best we can to be better people, let Allah be the judge of the rest
All I ask is that who gave them the right to take away someone’s life..even if it’s their own daughter for using hairspray or for thinking of becoming a fashion designer!!
I started this blog site 2 yrs ago because it upset me so much reading about the disgusting facts that I decided to speak up & today I recieved an invitaion to be a part of the Houston Palestine Film Festival Panel to discuss this issue : ) I made a difference somewhere somehow!
May 11th, 2010 at 11:19 pm
As for you Ali…………..
Charity begins @ home so pray for you & your family first. I’ll take care of mine!
September 16th, 2010 at 12:05 pm
LOL, reading this blog. Its funny that Michael conveyed the same message as Ali and Hussain but in general words and you like it but when it is presented to you by religions point of view, it offends you. Its funny.
September 16th, 2010 at 2:00 pm
Lester you seem to have the same problem with comprehension that the others did! What Micheal said was NOT what you understood! It’s NOT the same message! He’s asking me to be careful about being so vocal regarding my thoughts & opinion because unfortunately nothing will come out of it & it may hurt me due to, quote “backward ignorant defenses”. He’s suggesting that I should focus on my life & leave it all alone because nothing will come out of it!
Michael if you ever read this, I would like you to confirm my understanding & if wrong than please do state it.
September 29th, 2010 at 1:36 am
Interesting discussion.
I wonder Samia, if you would have better case, if you talked about this issue from purely humanitarian point of view. I don’t know if you have read the whole Quran, but whenever I read Quran, I am scared of talking on behalf of Islam and Allah, since more I learn, more I reallize that Allah knows and I don’t know. I do want to say that being a Muslim, I am sure your ultimate goal is to be saved from Hellfire, and it may be simpler and more straightforward than lots of us think and it definitely starts with praying five times a day, on time, and that is from Quran’s first few pages (BTW, I am not saying that you don’t pray )
A brotherly note, please don’t be upset..
September 29th, 2010 at 11:07 am
Rizwan I’m not upset in fact amused at your & the comment of other Muslim “brothers”. Please read my blog again (this time slowly) & try to understand that I wrote it from a humanitarian point of view. I questioned their motive & asked why do the criminals act in the name of religion? THAT is my question! There’s much more in religion, in Islam, to prove that you’re a good Muslim rather than torturing & killing your daughters & wives in the name of Allah! That’s misusing HIS name (Astaghfirullah) to justify their cowardly acts.
At no point am I talking about being a good or a bad Muslim. That’s for Allah to judge. Just because you may pray five times a day, doesn’t make you a better Muslim in Allah’s eyes!
I’m talking about being a better person here! Being more tolerant & patient. If an adult does not agree with you it doesn’t mean that you go kill them! Islam is a religion of tolerance & I know that well enough to speak up.
September 30th, 2010 at 1:39 am
Okay, I get your point and I agree that religion does not condone these acts. But try to get my point too. These acts a lots of times are not done because of religious reasons but rather for ‘honour’ and actually happens in india a lots, by hindus, and if in doubt, google hindu honor killing and see what you get. And thats why I suggested to make it PURELY humanitarian issue without any reference to religion. For example, if you condemn terror you give a pure message but when you condemn islamic terror, you are also maligning islam, not on purpose but just because people see two togather. This is a known psychological fact that by asssociation you can give bad feelings without actually calling something bad, sort of subliminal message….
So again my ‘not so brotherly’ suggestion would be to take islam out of this and stick to what you said in your own response, about being a better person!!!
October 1st, 2010 at 5:08 am
Hey, no disrespect. But can you just stick to being a DJ and not an activist. You don’t sound qualified enough to be talking about this here.
October 3rd, 2010 at 11:41 am
I am still waiting for a response or a change in your blog to make it free of religious connotations.. Just another point: What OJ did was also a type of ‘honor’ killing and when a boyfriend or an ex-husband does something violent because of jealousy in a western culture, you don’t call it a Christian or Jewish problem…
October 6th, 2010 at 1:49 am
Very well said Rizwan. I have a lot of muslim and hindu friends as i live in Sugarland, TX. I really feel bad for the ones who belong to noble and educated familes but waste their lives drinking and partying just because their parents worked hard in this country and are successful today. There are many who follow their parents footsteps and practice religion and succeed in life the way their parents did but I feel sorry for the parents of the ones who disappoint their elders and want to mix with American culture.
I agree that this discussion board should be free of religion.
October 18th, 2010 at 9:54 pm
Can I use your website for a source in my essay? Thx!
October 20th, 2010 at 11:13 am
@ PERRY … Yes you may.
@ LESTER … If you are so proud of who you are & following the ” footsteps of your parents & practicing religion” why are you hiding your name & calling yourself Lester? Instead of jumping to judge & criticize others, once again try & understand the point being made. Stop feeling bad for others & try to fix yourself!
@ RIZWAN … I have a life & therefore was busy with other commitments so I didn’t get a chance to log on & reply to your comment immediately! Yes you are right that such honor killing acts do happen in India as well so does that fact justify it happening in Pakistan or any other country for that matter? What kind of a logic is that? I’m not condemning my religion here but bringing awareness that we need to realize there’s a problem & try to help stop it. CAN YOU HELP ME STOP SUCH COWARDLY ACTS instead of criticizing me for speaking up? We claim to be the followers of the most peaceful & tolerant religion in the world so why not put efforts into ensuring that fact instead of criticizing each other?
@ ASIF … Can you stay out of this & not try to look important here? I will say & do what I feel like so go find something better to do with your life!
I’m NOT surprised to see that there’s not a single Muslim “brother” who has supported me in condemning the horrific act of “honor killings” instead each one jumped on the opportunity to criticize me for taking a stand! Bravo you hypocrites!
October 21st, 2010 at 12:07 am
I think we are very close to eachother’s point. I am with you in condemning these horrific acts, wherever they are happening and whoever is doing it. I am just asking that let’s condemn these acts without reference to religion, and it would be a much straightforward message and most likely, you wont have to put up with any hypocrite brother;)
At the end of the day, its your website and you are entitled to do whatever you want to do with it, I am just a passerby and may get busy in “life”, not to have time to bug you…
October 21st, 2010 at 10:34 am
I appreciate your reasonable comment Rizwan : )
As you can see that I started this blog in 2008, as per the title “The reason I started it” was because @ that time a lot of such stories came to surface & I was obviously horrified to read about them so much that I ended up starting a blog site.
It was after that I started doing my research & found out that such acts happen all over the world irrespective of the religion & especially in India due to caste system.
As I said, my intention was not to criticize the religion that I follow but to bring awareness & I believe I accomplished that in a small way.
Respect
Samia
October 22nd, 2010 at 12:26 am
Samia, thanx for your nice response.
I can see you have a lots of passion about this issue and instead of feeling bad and then go on with your own life, you actually did something about it and lots of us (me included) can take notes…
Also I commend your courage to keep all the coments on, since if you would want, I’m sure you can delete what you don’t like!
I wish, and I don’t know if you can edit, you can update your “reason I started..” with your current thought process, since that is the first thing anybody sees..
Hope future brings all goodness for you
Sincerely
November 1st, 2010 at 1:33 pm
and this is exactly why debates on religion always fail.
i don’t know anything about islam and i am not interested to know either. all i know is that taking a life cannot possibly be humane. whether u are a muslim, or a christian, or if you worship refrigerators, human relations … human love … humanity must supersede everything else including organized religion, innit? in the name of that humanity, yes, the actions of honor killings must be condemned. also, it is important to look at the statistics of where and in what families these disgusting atrocities are occurring, and perhaps devise a solution to help those families and cultures to come in terms with the fast changing society.
society and its rules changed at a fast pace but, sadly, some religiously and culturally adamant portions remained stuck in century old traditions. conflict is bound to occur as a result.
November 1st, 2010 at 1:34 pm
also, good effort here. i wish you had more time to write.
November 1st, 2010 at 9:45 pm
Samia,
This my response to (your comment which you made on (December 18th, 2008 at 11:38 am).
Looks like you completely mis-read of what I said. I did quote VERSES from AL-Quran with Chapter:Verse. I think you should take your English AP classes again because you seriously lack in reading/understanding skills.
I agree with the concern which you’ve mentioned, and yet sadly things like this happened. Since, we are slave of Allah (SBT), and He gave us a book to read and sent His messenger to guide us. You should know that there are very strict punishments about the things such as ( drugs, sex,..etc ).The Punishment will apply IF AND ONLY IF there are enough evidence.
Below are some details under the light of Quran and Hadiths.
Quran and Hadiths which may dictate/incite honor killing:
Quran- 4:15 “If any of your women are guilty of lewdness, take the evidence of four (reliable) witness from amongst you against them; if they testify, confine them to houses until death do claim them. Or God ordain for them some (other) way.”
Quran-24:2 “The woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication—flog each of them with hundred stripes: Let no compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by God, if ye believe in God and the last day.”
Quran-17:32 “ Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils).
Quran-33:33 “stay quietly in your houses, and make not a dazzling display.”
Now some sahih hadiths:
Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 63, Number 196:
Narrated Abu Huraira: A man from Bani Aslam came to Allah’s Apostle while he was in the mosque and called (the Prophet ) saying, “O Allah’s Apostle! I have committed illegal sexual intercourse.” On that the Prophet turned his face from him to the other side, whereupon the man moved to the side towards which the Prophet had turned his face, and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! I have committed illegal sexual intercourse.” The Prophet turned his face (from him) to the other side whereupon the man moved to the side towards which the Prophet had turned his face, and repeated his statement. The Prophet turned his face (from him) to the other side again. The man moved again (and repeated his statement) for the fourth time. So when the man had given witness four times against himself, the Prophet called him and said, “Are you insane?” He replied, “No.” The Prophet then said (to his companions), “Go and stone him to death.” The man was a married one. Jabir bin ‘Abdullah Al-Ansari said: I was one of those who stoned him. We stoned him at the Musalla (’Id praying place) in Medina. When the stones hit him with their sharp edges, he fled, but we caught him at Al-Harra and stoned him till he died.
(See also Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 63, Number 195.)
Sahi Bukhari: 8:6814:
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah al-Ansari: “A man from the tribe of Bani Aslam came to Allah’s Messenger [Muhammad] and informed him that he had committed illegal sexual intercourse; and he bore witness four times against himself. Allah’s Messenger ordered him to be stoned to death as he was a married person.”
Sahi Muslim No. 4206:
“A woman came to the prophet and asked for purification by seeking punishment. He told her to go away and seek God’s forgiveness. She persisted four times and admitted she was pregnant. He told her to wait until she had given birth. Then he said that the Muslim community should wait until she had weaned her child. When the day arrived for the child to take solid food, Muhammad handed the child over to the community. And when he had given command over her and she was put in a hole up to her breast, he ordered the people to stone her. Khalid b. al-Walid came forward with a stone which he threw at her head, and when the blood spurted on her face he cursed her.”
Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol 2. pg 1009; and Sahih Muslim Vol 2. pg 65:
Hadhrat Abdullah ibne Abbaas (Radiallahu Anhu) narrates the lecture that Hadhrat Umar (Radiallaahu Anhu) delivered whilst sitting on the pulpit of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam). Hadhrat Umar (Radiallahu Anhu) said, “Verily, Allah sent Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) with the truth, and revealed the Quran upon him. The verse regarding the stoning of the adulterer/ess was from amongst the verse revealed (in the Quraan). We read it, secured it and understood it. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) stoned and we stoned after him. I fear that with the passage of time a person might say, ‘We do not find mention of stoning in the Book of Allah and thereby go astray by leaving out an obligation revealed by Allah. Verily, the stoning of a adulterer/ress is found in the Quraan and is the truth, if the witnesses are met or there is a pregnancy or confession.”
Al-Bukhari:
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Whoever guarantees me that he will guard his chastity, I will guarantee him Paradise”.
Al-Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawud, An-Nisa’i and others:
Abu Hurayrah reports that the Messenger of Allah said, “No one commits adultery while still remaining a believer, for faith is more precious unto Allah than such an evil act!” In another version, it is stated, “When a person commits adultery he casts away from his neck the bond that ties him to Islam; if, however, he repents, Allah will accept his repentance”.
Al-Bayhaqi:
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “O mankind! Beware of fornication/adultery for it entails six dire consequences: three of them relating to this world and three to the next world. As for the three that are related to this world, they are the following: it removes the glow of one’s face, brings poverty, and reduces the life-span. As for its dire consequences in the next world they are: it brings down the wrath of Allah upon the person, subjects him to terrible reckoning, and finally casts him in hell-fire.”
November 6th, 2010 at 2:33 am
For Hussain,
All the Holy Verses and Hadiths are definitely clear about what Allah and His beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) say about adultry, but that still would not justify anyone takimg matters in their own hands and killing another soul that Allah has made sacred (I am sure you know about the narration in Quran about killing one soul without just cause is like killing the whole humanity and saving one is like saving the whole humanity…)
I am no scholar, but also remeber that islamic laws were not applied (or not even revealed) in Meccan period, because first an islamic environment is provided before islamic law can be applied. I am not condoning any vulgarity, but I do not believe that living in an atmosphere that entices and glorifies sexuality, the way it is done in this culture (and more and more in our “islamic” countries), one can apply the laws of Shariah. That being said, one who follows Allah and His messanger’s path is, for sure, rightly guided.
Again, the discussion was about killing and no religion or culture would condone these acts, I just wish it could be condemned without religious connotations…..
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